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Day Seventy-Two of 365 – The Lies We Believe

I have been thinking  quite a bit lately about lies. Lies are everywhere! They come in all shapes and sizes and from people from all walks of life. Lies are told for numerous reasons. Lies are softened from time to time. Lies come in various forms – bald-faced; white; outright and compulsive. There are lies of fabrication; lies of exaggeration; lies of deception! Plagiarism is a lie! Slander is a lie! Libel is a lie! Lies, lies, lies! They are everywhere . . . everywhere!

Lies deceive, destroy and decimate. Lies can cost us money, impact our relationships and affect our choices. Lies are difficult, if not impossible, to track and monitor. Lies, even little lies, grow. C.S. Lewis once said, “A little lie is like a little pregnancy—it doesn’t take long before everyone knows.”

Lies are all around us. We listen to them. We believe them. We tell them. We cover them over. We become comfortable with them. We often make them a part of our lives – a part of our character.

Lies and deception become a part of our entertainment in movies, poetry, plays and prose.  I can even recall a couple of songs from the 70’s about lies. Three Dog Night recorded a song entitled, Liar. The Eagles recorded a song, Lyin’ Eyes. Great songs!

Lies . . . What’s the real problem with lies? How long do you have? Lots of things are wrong with lies. EVERYthing is wrong with lies. Lies are the keys that open the doors to every kind of evil.

The more I think about lies, I believe that the worst lies, the most insidious lies are The Lies We Believe. We believe lies for all kinds of reasons. We believe lies about ourselves – both positive and negative. We believe lies about others – when believing the truth would be both easier and more useful. We believe lies in order to keep on believing other lies. We believe lies to keep our status in groups. We believe lies to benefit from the misfortune of others. We believe lies to make ourselves feel better about our foibles. We believe lies to perpetuate the lies that other people tell us.

The Lies We Believe threaten to irreparably rend the fabric of our lives, our friendships, our families, our schools, our corporations, our government . . . our world. Lies are the common cancer that eats away at our decency.

The Lies We Believe can be fought. All we have to do is stop telling them; stop believing them; stop living them.


Mark E. Hundley

Mark Hundley M.Ed.,LPC-S

Mark Hundley M.Ed.,LPC-S

Mark Hundley has worked with children, youth and families since 1971 – devoting 13 years to youth and family ministry; another 10 years to service in public education as a teacher and high school counselor; and the remaining time as a therapist, consultant, speaker and writer.

He earned his B.A. in Sociology from Hardin-Simmons University; his Master’s in Counseling from the University of North Texas; and has pursued doctoral studies in Educational Administration.

Mark is a Life Transition Specialist with a specific expertise in the field of grief. He works with individuals, families and corporate bodies to create and implement strategies for powerful living despite obstacles faced.

He is the author of Awaken to Good Mourning – a personal guide through the journey of grief – available in both print and audio versions. He is a co-founder of the Journey of Hope Grief Support Center in Plano, TX, a non-profit agency that provides free group grief support to children, adolescents and their parents or adult caregivers as they learn to mourn the death or impending death of a loved one.

Mark limits his practice to evening and Saturday appointments; supervision for Licensed Professional Counselor Interns; online counseling; coaching, consulting, speaking and training.

For more information about his coaching, consulting and public speaking services visit

1 Comment

  1. Sherri Cusimano on March 13, 2017 at 11:01 pm

    Thank you Mark for sharing this. I ruined a lifelong friendship by telling a lie to protect someone and it destroyed this friendship. I know longer try to fix or keep things from anyone…very well said. A real awakening for me. Thank you again.

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